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Writer's pictureFernanda Abundantia

Stage Three: Separation



In the separation stage, the pure essence is extracted from the rest of the mixture. As the first two stages were associated with fire and water, separation is related to the air element. In a spiritual sense, it can be understood as separation from one’s habitual thought processes or emotional trigger responses in order to step back and distinguish our essence from our acquired personality.

Separation is a very liberating stage where we can free ourselves of resentment towards ourselves and others. It is a kind of liberation from negative emotions. By doing so, we can become aware of our true feelings. We separate ourselves from our inauthentic selves and step closer to our essential or higher self. The separation occurs when we no longer identify with the character we have been playing, but rather we become the awareness itself. Awareness of our own thoughts, feelings, and desires, but without identifying with them or becoming attached to them.

The separation stage is a kind of detachment from our old skin. After the emptiness and suffering in the first stage of calcination, and then the fearful stage of dissolution where hidden emotions emerge, the separation stage comes as a welcome relief as we experience the stillness of being separated from our inferior and inauthentic qualities.


The year was 2021 – And it started with coming out of a Spiritual Awakening. Something that I now, know wasn’t my first one. I have had a couple more in my lifetime. But when I was going through it I didn’t have awareness. It was a huge purging. Around 6 months that culminated with my Dad’s passing. On a day 7.


And it was right at my nodal return; From those who don’t know, every 19 years we have what we call – a “Nodal Return”. A point in time where our north and South nodes come to the same exact point we were born with. And the nodes talk about our purpose as a soul evolution. The direction we have to move to and what our soul chooses to develop and evolve in this lifetime. It's a very karmic point in our chart.

At that stage, I already had a very deep understanding of spirituality and a broader perspective of this reality. And I knew my Dad’s passing would be connected to my life purpose. Something that I might go into later on.

And then, there was a push. A deep calling from his soul and the Universe.

- “You have to leave”!


Ego / Mind: “Leave what? Where? Why? How?

All those questions that I didn’t have any answer to.


Most people in this scenario would just move forward with life. Find a new job, go to the gym, download a dating app, and meet new people. Nothing wrong with that but that wasn’t my call. I choose to sat with that huge question mark. Sat with that uncertainty, with that disturbance of not having any answer but still feeling the need to find them. with that profound dissatisfaction with life.


And then I realized. The Universe has a plan for me. Even though I knew nothing about it. I felt in my heart. It was a calling to go find a new version of myself, to connect with my true purpose, something that I would never found if I stayed in the same place and circumstances. If I opted for comfort.


So then, I separate. From what exactly?

Well, from everything I knew. And embarked on a journey that eventually was presented to me as a mission. I spiritual quest, a pilgrimage. Activating my Soul DNA’s memory. Places that I have traveled in past lives and somehow are connected to my purpose in this lifetime.

And for that, I had to feed the separation.


My higher self asked: - Are you willing to be in aloneness for 99% of your time? Because you need deep silence. You need space to contemplate. “I need to isolate.” These past few years that you call a “hermit life” were only the training for what is to come. You need to turn into the depth of your soul, no distraction, no interference. A lonely and isolated journey.








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